There’s a huge diff between that BDSM book you read last week–heck even I’ve blogged about BDSM books–and (let’s just go for the general) behaving badly, which obviously is a mileage may vary phrase.
I’ve actually been called onto the carpet for stuff I wrote about my ex–not that it was horrible, or even bad, but I did blog about him. I won’t anymore.
DO I feel stifled? No. I write erotic romance and I DO feel that gives me a certain freedom (or leeway if you will) BUT I draw the line somewhere.