What's the matter with him?
He is always always ruining my plans!!!
Once I have my own plan he later makes another plan and makes me postpone or cancel mine and follow his! This is so unfair! Of course I fight back but his last line, 'You are so self-centered!' .....Hellooooo???
One of my friends who are married with Canadian guy and live in Vancouver will come back to Japan in this coming August. We will meet at Kyoto on August 16th. I have told Yoshi for more than a month about it and asked for him to go with me. It would be a good idea staying his parents' place where located in Osaka, near the border between Kyoto and Osaka. He was not sure if he wants to go because he hates the heat in summer out there.
Meantime we have been planning to have a house. We found a nice builder who imports American housings. He is so willing that this weekend he went to Osaka to ask his father for financial support. And this morning he came up with this idea, which is on my way back from Kyoto to Nagano, I would come back with his parents and go straight to the model house. So they would see if the house is worth purchasing.. What he said on the phone was crazy. Because his parents hardly take day-off on 17th and 18th, he said we should come back on 16th. It is the day I meet my friend!! What the heck he is talking about. What he thinks I go to Kyoto for?
It is Obon holidays in Japan. I lost my mother many years ago so I want to take care of my mother's grave. I haven't been on time of Higan for years because we were in Canada for 2 years. We came back last year but we put his parents' ahead last Obon holiday and New Year. I thought this summer would be my turn to be prior to.
I thought it would be no problem since Yoshi didn't wanna go back. But..
He blamed me like, 'You are going to spend the holiday for your family and friends. You are so selfish you try to fulfill only your plan!'
Sigh....
This is not occasional but ALWAYS. I always have to change or cancel my appointment with my friends "last-minute." I am so sure people think I am irresponsible and a promise breaker... That is the hardest thing for me. I always feel like I am torn apart....
He is always always ruining my plans!!!
Once I have my own plan he later makes another plan and makes me postpone or cancel mine and follow his! This is so unfair! Of course I fight back but his last line, 'You are so self-centered!' .....Hellooooo???
One of my friends who are married with Canadian guy and live in Vancouver will come back to Japan in this coming August. We will meet at Kyoto on August 16th. I have told Yoshi for more than a month about it and asked for him to go with me. It would be a good idea staying his parents' place where located in Osaka, near the border between Kyoto and Osaka. He was not sure if he wants to go because he hates the heat in summer out there.
Meantime we have been planning to have a house. We found a nice builder who imports American housings. He is so willing that this weekend he went to Osaka to ask his father for financial support. And this morning he came up with this idea, which is on my way back from Kyoto to Nagano, I would come back with his parents and go straight to the model house. So they would see if the house is worth purchasing.. What he said on the phone was crazy. Because his parents hardly take day-off on 17th and 18th, he said we should come back on 16th. It is the day I meet my friend!! What the heck he is talking about. What he thinks I go to Kyoto for?
It is Obon holidays in Japan. I lost my mother many years ago so I want to take care of my mother's grave. I haven't been on time of Higan for years because we were in Canada for 2 years. We came back last year but we put his parents' ahead last Obon holiday and New Year. I thought this summer would be my turn to be prior to.
I thought it would be no problem since Yoshi didn't wanna go back. But..
He blamed me like, 'You are going to spend the holiday for your family and friends. You are so selfish you try to fulfill only your plan!'
Sigh....
This is not occasional but ALWAYS. I always have to change or cancel my appointment with my friends "last-minute." I am so sure people think I am irresponsible and a promise breaker... That is the hardest thing for me. I always feel like I am torn apart....
I think what you can do is that you just make a list of the time you gave up your plan & tell him how much you're bearing with his selfish enumerating them one by one.
I think his mind is that his selfish action is no wonder, because he has no time due to too busy, but it is wrong.
Even if he is tired, he has to take care your mind.
However, he didn’t find it yet.
So, you can go anyplace by alone sometimes.
Then, he can understand what is important in his life.
Please control him…. by kiss and loneliness.
You can do it.
Gosh, I should have posted earlier that he compromised and we made it up. I found that he is always too distracted by his own thoughts when I speak. Yeah, I will take your nice idea and make a list preparing for next fight!
I don\'t think my kisses could work that way though.. ( because Yoshi thinks I am like his brother.. He is quite a bully you know! Ha, ha!) I will try!