Shouldn't read this post, OK? I am whining!

May 8, 2013 

 

Tiring Golden Week has finally finished ... I shouldn't say this but it is absolutely the honest feeling of mine...

 

.... I am sooooooooooooooooooooooo exhausted ....

 

My parents-in-law stayed in my place for 10 days, which means the whole GW including the weekdays in between. Can you believe it?! 10 facking days! Even if they were nice people, it would also be too long time to be together around the clock...  

My father-in-law is OK for me. He is nice and seems to understand how to pay regards when he stays others' house. What I mean is my mother-in-law. She does matter. Having guts, being earnest and perfectionist in her way are her pros. But, because she believes in herself so firmly, she can't stand it when she finds others' downsides. She nags, nags and nags just about everything, which are just tiny difference from her way but not such big mistakes.

The first couple of days are OK. Apparently she trys to be patient. As days go by, she can't stop herself and gets frustrated more and more and then ... about the last couple of days she explodes... This is the pattern she repeats every year.. I was wondering why she still wants to stay such a long time. I think 2 - 3 days should be perfect for peace in mind for all of us...

... I know I should be improved. I am whining about the same thing every year.  I just don't know how to handle the old woman. She says "Be more clear about what you want to say!" when I obey her. When I tell her my opinion which sounds against hers,  she is always upset saying "You are such cold-hearted," or "You are always talking back! " (actually, I am as obedient as no one else could be ... is this so-called "talking back"?) "That's why you never learn from the lessons," blah, blah ... According to her, the bottom line is people must obey her 100 %, all the time. No counter opinions at all ... Whoa, what kind of dictator is it? 

.... wWhooooaa, I can't stop myself whining ... !! 

Let me tell you this, finally. I am not exaggerating, OK?

You may want to advise me some tips to get along with her but ... maybe I have already tried them all. She is just beyond your imagination. She is honest, yes. She is kind, yes. She is caring, yes! But it is just her own way and it is inconsistent. Have you heard of the word "moral harassment"? That explains it.  ... In this theory, I am a stereotyped victim. So I what I can do is to rebuild my self-esteem and a strong heart which no vicious words can break.