Feb.3, 2005
I was quite busy today not to run house chore but to drive here and there.
Yoshi had a group meeting at school and I drove him there.
I have been driving Yoshi to school for the past half year because the school raised the parking fares nearly double! It wasn’t cheap before that. I can’t believe they did this to the students! Why should they rip off us?? Anyway.
I made a call to Jay (see my friends’ profiles) last night, right after I got back home from the baking class, and offered her some brownies I baked. She and her husband Joon are living on campus. I asked her if she wouldn’t mind me dropping by. She said “no problem.” So I went to her place after dropping Yoshi. I wanted to stop for a while to have a tea and some chitchat with her but I had another appointment.
I got a call from Anita (see my..) yesterday. She wanted to ask me out.
Actually, … I am not natural with her.
This is only between us, OK?
I know she is a sociable loving person that should be appreciated but … she is just overwhelming to me!! I find it tiring hanging out with her. I am sorry I feel like this way but I can’t help it, you know.
I am a very “Japanese” Japanese. I mean I hardly say “No” to anyone… She frequently asks me out but I am always beating around the bush to say “No.” If I were her, I would realize with the hints that she didn’t want to go out. But she never gives up. She calls me over and over again and leaves messages. The next day, she is like, “Why didn’t you call me back?!!” …. God help me…
I know from the bottom of my heart that I should make myself clearer. That’s the way people should behave in North American societies. But, you know it is not meant that you can say everything in mind. It is totally a bad idea hurting someone’s feelings so they too do the same thing when they want to refuse someone softly. There isn’t much difference!
Anyway.
I couldn’t refuse her yesterday because I had already did many times making stupid excuses. I picked her up in this afternoon and we went grocery shopping.
I don't really know why she keeps asking me out. I don't talk much. I am not that friendly to her. I don't see any benefit to have me as a friend. I am sorry I am horrible to say this but, I am telling you!
I am so tired.
The good thing today was that Yoshi's friends at school liked the brownies I made yesterday. I told Yoshi to give some to them.
アニータさんていう中国人の友達がいるのだけど、
はっきり言って苦手なタイプなのです。
…いや、全然いいヒトなんですけどね。
ただ、彼女の親切心や自信、嫌悪や虚栄心なんかまですべてに、
何と言うか圧倒されちゃって、とても疲れるんですょ～
アニータには申しわけないけど
ほんとはあまり一緒に居たくないというか。。（ごめんね～
）
何度も、ほんとに何度もお出かけの誘いを断ってるのだけど、
それでもめげずに誘ってくれる。
断るネタも尽きます。
そんな訳で、今日はアニータと買い物に行ってきました。
…やっぱり疲れたなー。
どうしてかな～。。なんかいつも申しわけなくて。。
I was quite busy today not to run house chore but to drive here and there.
Yoshi had a group meeting at school and I drove him there.
I have been driving Yoshi to school for the past half year because the school raised the parking fares nearly double! It wasn’t cheap before that. I can’t believe they did this to the students! Why should they rip off us?? Anyway.
I made a call to Jay (see my friends’ profiles) last night, right after I got back home from the baking class, and offered her some brownies I baked. She and her husband Joon are living on campus. I asked her if she wouldn’t mind me dropping by. She said “no problem.” So I went to her place after dropping Yoshi. I wanted to stop for a while to have a tea and some chitchat with her but I had another appointment.
I got a call from Anita (see my..) yesterday. She wanted to ask me out.
Actually, … I am not natural with her.
This is only between us, OK?
I know she is a sociable loving person that should be appreciated but … she is just overwhelming to me!! I find it tiring hanging out with her. I am sorry I feel like this way but I can’t help it, you know.
I am a very “Japanese” Japanese. I mean I hardly say “No” to anyone… She frequently asks me out but I am always beating around the bush to say “No.” If I were her, I would realize with the hints that she didn’t want to go out. But she never gives up. She calls me over and over again and leaves messages. The next day, she is like, “Why didn’t you call me back?!!” …. God help me…
I know from the bottom of my heart that I should make myself clearer. That’s the way people should behave in North American societies. But, you know it is not meant that you can say everything in mind. It is totally a bad idea hurting someone’s feelings so they too do the same thing when they want to refuse someone softly. There isn’t much difference!
Anyway.
I couldn’t refuse her yesterday because I had already did many times making stupid excuses. I picked her up in this afternoon and we went grocery shopping.
I don't really know why she keeps asking me out. I don't talk much. I am not that friendly to her. I don't see any benefit to have me as a friend. I am sorry I am horrible to say this but, I am telling you!
I am so tired.
The good thing today was that Yoshi's friends at school liked the brownies I made yesterday. I told Yoshi to give some to them.
アニータさんていう中国人の友達がいるのだけど、
はっきり言って苦手なタイプなのです。
…いや、全然いいヒトなんですけどね。
ただ、彼女の親切心や自信、嫌悪や虚栄心なんかまですべてに、
何と言うか圧倒されちゃって、とても疲れるんですょ～
アニータには申しわけないけど
ほんとはあまり一緒に居たくないというか。。（ごめんね～
）何度も、ほんとに何度もお出かけの誘いを断ってるのだけど、
それでもめげずに誘ってくれる。
断るネタも尽きます。
そんな訳で、今日はアニータと買い物に行ってきました。
…やっぱり疲れたなー。
どうしてかな～。。なんかいつも申しわけなくて。。
I'm not sure, but there're some English declination phrases, right? Why don't you ask about them to your other friends? You would be fed up with excuses like " I have other appointment" "I have something to do" or " I'll go out with my husband on the day".
You must have some Chinese friends, mustn't you?
Otherwise you wouldn't tell exactly what I am feeling...
Yeah, what's worse is that she doesn't mean to bother me. She is just being nice in Chinese way, which to me is too demanding.
I hate to hurt her by simply saying "No, I don't wanna go!"
I have already tried some phrases, you know. But every phrase let her expect the next time. Aww, DIFFICULT!
...OK, I will ask other friends how to decline!
Thanks for your advice! I really appreciate that!