I have been climbing on the mountains ever since I moved to Kofu... and recently came to understand why I love the activities so much.
A tough situation I encounter in the mountains... is, for me, a challenge and I enjoy the challenge. Why? Because it makes me grow.
I feel happy and secure when I know I am growing. I know the direction, I know where I am going, that kind of feeling makes me feel good.
That's kind of feeling. I had the same kind of feeling when I was working as an office worker, an engineers... I like working toward something which, expands my comfort zone.
It is the same kind of joy feeling when you do something unfamiliar and the feeling start to grow on you and it became a piece of cake when you get used to. Anything has this, a new jobs, a new role in the work, or going overseas... anything new, the same thing.
I feel loved when people encourage me to grow. When I was down and weary, friends send me encouragements, kept telling me "You are good. Don't give up". So, for me, being loved is a given an encouragement, and a reward is a chance of growth, to go a step higher.
Perhaps, people love others the way they feel they are loved.
So the way I love people will be encouraging them to grow. To share my faith in believing in that person's potential to grow.
I think one should believe in self, your own potential and strength, otherwise who else would? No one else knows you better than yourself.
My personal shortcomings is that, I might be a bit controlling to people. There are some times when I know absolute good to a person, like stopping to drink alcohol or gambling, smoking.... apparently destroying themselves. Then I will force them to stop the bad habits.
So controlling type of my mental habits and such a strong wish for a personal growth, combined... I do pressure people for a challenge or growth. I might have. Especially loved ones.
Now I am grown-up, I know there is other way of being happy, being just content. Watching others, I noticed some people just withdraw from a challenge and expectation. For them a challenge is a threat. Some people even hurt themselves to escape from expectation. "You are good" kind of encouragement is a no-no.
I don't like myself just sit around, do nothing, I like the way of life that is always working toward something...it fulfills me.
I am a kind of person always have a thrilling plan in mind. I dream of future, cause a future is always unknown and that thrills to me. I lose curiosity when I think I know all.
I could over do this, perhaps. Like a coach or a trainer who put too much pressure on a player...
I might have pressured or given a too much expectation on people.. even when that person does not want to grow, or when they just don't think they need to grow.
So this is what I was thinking these days in the mountains... why things could go this way and that way, how I play a role in the relationship, my function to the people around me... how I could be service to them.
Still, I think everyone of us always have wonderful talents in some area. I wish you don't give up finding your strength and give up polishing it till it's shine.
A tough situation I encounter in the mountains... is, for me, a challenge and I enjoy the challenge. Why? Because it makes me grow.
I feel happy and secure when I know I am growing. I know the direction, I know where I am going, that kind of feeling makes me feel good.
That's kind of feeling. I had the same kind of feeling when I was working as an office worker, an engineers... I like working toward something which, expands my comfort zone.
It is the same kind of joy feeling when you do something unfamiliar and the feeling start to grow on you and it became a piece of cake when you get used to. Anything has this, a new jobs, a new role in the work, or going overseas... anything new, the same thing.
I feel loved when people encourage me to grow. When I was down and weary, friends send me encouragements, kept telling me "You are good. Don't give up". So, for me, being loved is a given an encouragement, and a reward is a chance of growth, to go a step higher.
Perhaps, people love others the way they feel they are loved.
So the way I love people will be encouraging them to grow. To share my faith in believing in that person's potential to grow.
I think one should believe in self, your own potential and strength, otherwise who else would? No one else knows you better than yourself.
My personal shortcomings is that, I might be a bit controlling to people. There are some times when I know absolute good to a person, like stopping to drink alcohol or gambling, smoking.... apparently destroying themselves. Then I will force them to stop the bad habits.
So controlling type of my mental habits and such a strong wish for a personal growth, combined... I do pressure people for a challenge or growth. I might have. Especially loved ones.
Now I am grown-up, I know there is other way of being happy, being just content. Watching others, I noticed some people just withdraw from a challenge and expectation. For them a challenge is a threat. Some people even hurt themselves to escape from expectation. "You are good" kind of encouragement is a no-no.
I don't like myself just sit around, do nothing, I like the way of life that is always working toward something...it fulfills me.
I am a kind of person always have a thrilling plan in mind. I dream of future, cause a future is always unknown and that thrills to me. I lose curiosity when I think I know all.
I could over do this, perhaps. Like a coach or a trainer who put too much pressure on a player...
I might have pressured or given a too much expectation on people.. even when that person does not want to grow, or when they just don't think they need to grow.
So this is what I was thinking these days in the mountains... why things could go this way and that way, how I play a role in the relationship, my function to the people around me... how I could be service to them.
Still, I think everyone of us always have wonderful talents in some area. I wish you don't give up finding your strength and give up polishing it till it's shine.
