兄弟の絆Brotherhood

先週、夫の3番目の兄夫妻の訪問があった。

夫は4人兄弟の末っ子で3人の兄達から男の掟を鍛えられたようだ。

Last week, my husband’s 3^rd brother and his wife visited us.

My husband is the youngest and he seemed has trained a man’s rule from three brothers.

その背景からか夫は男同志で誰でもすぐに友達になり、話も気さくに交わせる。

It might have been the background reason why my husband can make friends easily among men and talk with them genially.

子供の頃は兄達と常に外で遊び泥まみれになったようだ。

When he was a kid, he and his brothers seemed to have been playing outside covered with muds all the time.

3番目の兄のロブは石や土が好きで、挙句の果てに地質学の教授になった。

The 3^rd brother Rob, he likes rock and soil so eventually, he became a geology professor.

その兄が家に来ると夫とロブは朝方まで話をするが、大体宇宙科学関りなので、聞いて飽きてくる。

When Rob visits us, my husband and him begin to talk until around morning but since the subjects involving cosmologic science so I get tired to listening.

夫とロブが話をしている風景を眺めていると、彼ら二人の間には深い絆でつながっているように見受ける。

When I look at the scenery which my husband and Rob are talking each other, seen to me that they seem to relate with bonds deeply between them.

夫が既存の知識体系について問題点を指摘し出すと、ロブはまずそれについて“それはいい考えだ”と受け容れてから“しかし”が始まる。

When my husband started to point out about an issue in systematic knowledge which has been known today, Rob begins for the first step accepting with “That is a good idea” and after then he starts with “Buts”.

その受け容れの様子を見るとその受け容れによって話題が広がり更に深まっていくようだ。

His acceptance is seen to me that it can enrich subjects to talk and brings variety with further and depth.

 ロブは私の意見にも同じく受け容れから始まるから私の考えを話しながら具体的に展開させることができる。

Also, Rob starts talking with me with the same acceptance, so I can develop concretely my opinions while I am talking.

奥さんものレイチェルにも受け容れから話を始めるから二人は30年の結婚生活のいざこざを対話によって解決しているようだ。

As well as he begins to talk with acceptance with his wife Rachyl so they seemed have been solving problems by conversations about these and those that happens for their 30 year-marriage.

ロブの受け容れ技は心理学の授業で習った認知やカウンセリングの分野を思い出させる。

The technic of acceptance of Rob, it remined me cognition class and counselling realms which learned in psychology classes.

人間関係を認知していく過程で必要な基本要素は相手をどう見るかであるが、その見方には『受け入れ方』と『受け容れ方』の二つのパータンがあるようだ。

The fundamental factor to recognize in human relationship processing is how to see each other and it seems having two kinds of acceptance patterns. One is taking, and the other is accepting.

受け入れは相手の意見を表面的で形式的に認める要素が含まれるようだが、受け容れには相手の意見に深層的に関わり深く容認していく積極的な関り方が加わるようだ。

The taking is like including acceptance factors which take in someone’s opinion superficial and formal, but the acceptance is like engaging deeply with someone’s opinion to approval in the way positively connected.

人は受け容れてもらうことにより更なる進歩ができるので、ロブの受け容れ方は兄弟間の絆を固めることも家族間の絆を更に強くさせることもできる必修栄養素だと言えよう。

As human being can improve by receiving acceptance from others, Rob’s acceptance can bond brotherhood more strongly and make family bonds stronger, so it can be the essential nutrient in human relationship.