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<figcaption>子どもたちの未来のためにも、社会の空気を変えるときが来ている。photo/iStockhttps://gendai.ismedia.jp/articles/-/68061
Kazuko Fukuda realized that in Sweden, when she was studying abroad as a college student, she has been lagging behind in her choice of Japanese knowledge about sex and options for contraception, which is completely different from overseas. Since returning to Japan, he has appealed for the need to share accurate information and means, including a project called "Nothing".
Mr. Fukuda is still in graduate school in Sweden and is studying sexology. Mr. Tonmi of Finland, whom I met there, learned that "I have been teaching sex in Finland since I was five years old". Sex education from 5 years old? However, there was a hint to clarify "what is sex education?"
Since 24th, he has also been active as an interpreter at a gender conference in Finland. Photo courtesy of Kazuko Fukuda
"Sex education" is not sexual activity itself
Did you know that recently "sexuality education" is beginning to be called "sexuality education"? When I say "sexual education", I tend to imagine sexual activity itself, sexually transmitted diseases, and contraception. However, not only that, but there are a wide range of fields that should be dealt with regarding sexuality, such as building relationships with each other, diverse ways of sex, sexual violence, and gender views. And it is essentially important that they be spoken more positively and openly.
According to the International Guidance on Education for Sexuality, co-published by WHO (World Health Organization) and UNESCO (United Nations Educational, Scientific and Cultural Organization), which can be said to be the international standard for sex education, sexuality education begins at the age of five. This is no exception in Finland, which I touched on in this article, and many people are working to implement sexuality education from kindergarten.
However, I think that many people feel uneasy or anxious, such as "sex education for kindergarteners?" Or "What about a society that is more open and positive for sex?". I used to be one of them. Therefore, in order to learn what kind of education is being conducted in Finland, which can be said to be a developed country of sexuality education, we interviewed Mr. Tonmi Palanen, the director of Sexpo Foundation who has supported Finnish sex education for 50 years.
Start focuses on relationships, not sex
“It is important to start sexuality education from an early childhood, but it is unlikely to teach an infant with a direct focus on sexual activity itself. Nevertheless, children feel more emotional than adults think. I'm interested in the body, and I have a lot to say about it, "says Tonmi.
Even at the age of kindergarten children, not only "I want to play with you!", But a little development from that, I have a feeling that "I love you!" "I want to be with you!" "I want to hold hands". That's very natural. That is why he learns how to deal with those feelings and actions.
According to the Finnish curriculum, it begins with "noticing what you feel when you are sad? When you are angry? When you are happy? When you think you like someone?"
“Imagine, for example, that you were suddenly picked up by a toy that you were having fun with. At that time, you were“ sad, ”“ disliked, ”“ angry! While thinking about such various emotions together, before suddenly taking a toy and making the opponent feel sad, saying "I want to play with this" or "use this toy Can i First of all, I will tell you that listening is important.
If you say "OK", you can play together, and if you say "No", wait and play with other things. Then, even if I said I didn't like it, if I couldn't get it from the other person, I'd tell them that I should talk to an adult. "(Tonmi)
To feel sad about taking a toy conveys the essence of sexual consent. photo / IStock
Sex stories are the same as children's toys
Up to this point, it may be a scenario that has been reported in kindergartens and preschools in Japan. But there's a little more to this.
"So, what do you do if someone suddenly touches your body? Because your body is yours, you must not touch it, Even if you don't like it, tell me that you don't like it. If you still can't hear it, let's talk to an adult who can tell you with peace of mind. What do you do when you think that you want to hold your hands, and when that happens, just like when you are playing with a toy, you must listen to the other person and ask for it. We will expand our understanding. ''
At first, some might wonder why sexuality education is about toys !? But the same is true for toys and sexual consent. The story of sexuality is actually an extension of the ordinary rules of everyday life, and special rules such as "lighter" and "joke" are not applied. That's why it's important not to pick out only the sexual story, and by stepping through the processes that occur in this way, you can naturally understand that "sexuality is not special".
"From the age of an infant, you will practice your communication and negotiation skills from a young age, while keeping the boundaries between yourself and others clear. In doing so, you will be able to respond to even larger and more complex relationships and events in the future. I will be able to do it. "(Tonmi)
This is the basis of sexuality education for young children. While listening to Mr. Tonmi, I'm sure that not only toddlers, but to those who are willing to carry out one-sided body touches in the workplace, I would definitely like to hear this story. Would not.
The true meaning of being positive and open to sex
As I mentioned earlier, "sexuality is also an extension of ordinary rules in everyday life", but in fact it has another important meaning. It's just like anything else, to be learned as "what you can talk about sexuality".
Nowadays, phrases like "open to sex" and "sex positivity" have come to be whispered. What kind of image do you have in that word? I feel that there are a lot of people who think that "open to sex = Yariman", "talking about anything" and so on. Of course, no matter who you talk to or what you talk about, it's your personal freedom, but the phrase "open to sex and positive" here is different from "you can speak properly when you need it and without shame." Means.
In Finland, there is also a word called the "toilet word," which is categorized as "so embarrassing that you must not say it in public." It also includes words that describe genitals. But Tonmi resolutely opposes categorizing them simply as "embarrassing."
Sex stigma planted in childhood
`` What if a child who was taught that I should not talk to people because my genitals are embarrassing is touched or teased by someone unintentionally !? If you can recognize genitals as a part of your body without the concept of shame, it means that you will not let others like it, that you will consult with someone, and it will be a skill to protect your safety. It is. "(Tonmi)
The value of embarrassment that was rooted as a child can be stigma. photo / iStock
Certainly, even in my twenties, some friends hesitate to go to the hospital, saying that it's embarrassing because it's about genitals. Also. The concept of "shame," "don't touch," and "don't be understood by people" greatly influences the difficulty of complaining of sexual violence.
That said, it doesn't mean that you can do anything anywhere without saying that you are sexually positive and open. It is necessary to separate public places from private places. For example, children often run around naked and play with genitals anywhere. Even in such a case, just yelling "No", you may recognize the body and nakedness as embarrassing or unlucky.
Instead, he said, "Sure, it might feel good, but it's important to me, so let's just do it in my room." Mr Tonmi says it's ideal to use the words that you can get.
And when I look at the current situation in Japan again ...
Mr. Tonmi talked about a lot of important things, but I am still not good at expressing my feelings to the other person. The first step, "awareness of emotions," which Finnish infants learn is almost impossible. Rather, I erase it unconsciously. Because when the other person's reaction is scary and I can't express my feelings different from the other person, it's very difficult to adjust to the other person while keeping thinking "I hate ...".
But I don't feel like listening to the other person. Therefore, I should make it something I didn't have in mind from the beginning. Then, after that, it will become severely painful. Although I learned a lot and improved a lot through the activities of "# Nothing", it is still not easy to change the habits that have become the way to survive for many years. Oh, I also wanted to get a Finnish education before this habit.
However, I don't seem to be the only person who feels that way. Recently, JOICFP, an international NGO that I participate in as one of the activists, announced a study called "Sex and Love 2019" in line with International Girls Day. There is such data there.
■ Match it so that the other person likes it !?
Regardless of gender, about 3 out of 4 people consider the other person carefully.
■ Have you ever tried to be reluctant?
Source: "Sex and Love 2019" International Cooperation NGO Joycef
In terms of sexual intercourse, more than half of the women, especially women, have had experience responding to sexual intercourse without being reluctant. On top of that, even the basic facts about contraception, such as contraception, are barely discussed.
How long will Japan continue to "do not change"?
Isn't this just the result of the shame concept being passed down while the education that should have been around the age of five was skipped? With self-reliance, I have to cut off this flow.
Japan does not have childhood sexuality education like Finland does. I feel that it is meaningful to gain, convey, and listen to your feelings, and to accumulate them, no matter what age they are, instead of being thrown away by different education and different values for sex. .. Sexual matters are also important, and if you know that you should talk, you should be able to talk little by little what you need.
According to the previous survey, three out of four women had their minds erased in order to match their partner, and one in two responded to sexual relations despite being uncomfortable. There is an answer. Both are quite painful. However, with each person's one-step understanding and courage, the current situation may change little by little.
In fact, I myself wrote an article before, but I have the experience that I was able to convey my true intentions because I met someone whom I could consider sexual agreement with. For the next generation, it is of course necessary to change the educational system in the future, but more than that, each of us can change the "social atmosphere". I believe it will lead to a big start.
It is time to change the atmosphere of society for the future of children. photo / iStock
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