The following is from the book which the friend who is an eminent reader lent.
邱海涛(Kyu Kaito)1955 born in Shanghai, China. Shanghai International Studies University Japanese graduated. And he came to Japan in 1985, after studying at Keio University and Tokyo University of Foreign Studies. he worked for ten years in a Japanese company. Currently, in a wide range of activities as publishing and video producer among Japan and China. "China five thousand years, the cultural history of sex" (Tokuma Bunko), "Here's no good Chinese" (Tokuma Shoten) "Chinese report"(Takarajimasha) etc. numerous books,
The following is from his latest work.
First Printing July 31, 2015
Statement emphasized by me.
The Chinese who doesn't have a tolerant heart
Surely the problem is that China is able to act like France which is "the model of the permission" or not, but will it be possible?
The Chinese is the people which bears a grudge basically in the grudge.
It doesn't permit a partner easily.
There is not a tolerant heart.
Therefore, it doesn't become a big bunch with apart ethnicity.
Let's attempt to regard the exchange of the B person who is apologized for as being the A person who apologizes here in China as the example.
A person "it is very inconvenience about the matter of ××× I apologize sincerely"
B person "there is not a great thing reluctantly because we are a good friend"
The A person thinks that he was moved by the generous attitude of the B person and that the apology finished and he is glad.
B, who put an uncomfortable expression on the face, say to Mr. A.
Mr. B, "I do not let you. Despite the apology, then, do not does not appear sincerity also nothing to behavior"
Mr. A says with a puzzled look.
Mr. A, "What good faith, what can i do for you?"
Mr. B is angry.
Mr. B "why will it not have to reconsider the cause badly will repeat the same mistake still if not finding cause"
Mr. A was surprised and became a pallor-of-the-face.
A person "it thought out well but it reconsiders "making" a mistake because of ××××× sincerely"
To apologize for A person once again, the B person is tentatively the state which seems satisfactory, saying "Nunn"
B person "you were searching for the cause but want to evaluate the taking a step forward posture however, it thinks that the cause is in another place and that it should think more seriously you attempt to think fast"
...that a so said A person was shocked and that a word wasn't spoken
This is a fictitious story but wishing to attempt to confirm about this exchange by all means for it if there is an acquaintance of the Chinese in the neighborhood of the reader.
When apologizing to the Chinese, it thinks that anyone will agree the fact to become like that.
The vicious circle which doesn't have bounds will continue in the characteristic of the Chinese to the apology.
Therefore, it doesn't often apologize at the Chinese even if the fault suits itself.
But repeating, because the relation between the country and the country is the honor of the state and the diplomatic relations which affect international credit, all problems, it exchanges and it solves a formal diplomatic document and it is a right order.
It brings in the problem of the honorary to the diplomatic problem, it results in bringing bad influence to the normalization of the diplomatic relations.
* This part will should read with care for the human beings in the Asahi and Mainichi and so-called men of culture and the each one of and the opposition party who sided with them.
Because it does never again the foolish speech and action to make a country be wrong, too